What Does Sexy Look Like After 50?

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If you're ready to ditch outdated ideas about what sexy

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means past a certain age, then you're in the right place.

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Today, we're redefining sexy after 50 with real talk

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and steps that you can use. Forget the outdated

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standards. So grab that cup of coffee or your

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favorite beverage, and let's dive in.

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Alright, girl. Let's get real. When you

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hear the word sexy, what pops into your head?

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That hourglass figure that society tells us is the

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only option? Big boobs, a perfect

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butt, and full lips? Here's the truth.

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Sexy is so much more than that.

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I want you to ponder this for a second.

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Does sexy automatically translate to

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sexual or sensual? Absolutely

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not. Sexy after 50 is about a

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whole different kind of power. It's it's confidence

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radiating from the inside out, a self assuredness

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that whispers, I know who I am, and I'm darn

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good at it. When the world whispers

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that sexy has an expiration date, we're here to

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shout a resounding no. Sexy after

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50 isn't about fitting into a mole. It's about

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breaking free from it. It's the confidence that radiates

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from knowing who you are and owning it.

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It's it's the allure of experience,

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the magnetism of self assurance.

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We're more vibrant and self assured than ever before.

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So how do we

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shake off those outdated ideas? 1st

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off, start talking back to negative

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voices in your head. You know the ones. Let's

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face it. Many of us have spent

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years pouring our hearts out into raising

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incredible kids who are now incredible adults.

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And while that's a beautiful thing,

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sometimes our own desires and our

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sense of self can get pushed aside. But here's a

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news flash. Sexy isn't just about

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lingerie in a drawer. Although, hey.

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If that's your thing, then go for it. It's a whole

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mood. It's an attitude, a

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way of carrying yourself. It's that knowing glint

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in your eye. The way you command a room with

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your presence. The way you you own

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your laugh lines and the the life experiences that are

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etched on your face. It's about self

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care, not just facials and bubble bath, but taking

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care of your physical and your mental well-being.

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Because when you feel good, you

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project that confidence.

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So think about a powerhouse like Michelle

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Obama. Her appeal

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isn't just in her appearance, but it's in her poise. It's

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in her smile and her zest for life. Sexy

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is an attitude, a presence. It's in the

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way we carry our stories, our our

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laughter, and our unique selves with pride.

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So, okay. We know sexy is an

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attitude, but how do we get there?

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Let's unpack this a bit. Step 1, it would

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be self talk check ins.

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Your inner dialogue shapes your reality.

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Notice those little voices in your head?

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Well, start showering yourself with the kindness that you'd

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offer others. Catch those negative thoughts and flip

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the script. Try sticking post it notes on

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your mirror. I talked about this, I don't know, a few

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episodes ago. I know it might sound cheesy,

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but it works as a little reminder of your worth.

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Step 2 would be embrace your awesomeness.

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Write down 3 to 5 things that you absolutely

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love about yourself. Your humor, your kindness,

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your your resilience, anything goes.

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These are your badges of honor, and reference this

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list when you need a pick me up. Step

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3 would be body language boost.

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Your posture speaks volumes. How you

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carry yourself matters. Stand tall, shoulders

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back, chin up. Now the other day, I was walking by the

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mirror, and I noticed that I was walking slumped over.

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Girl, I immediately held my head up, put my

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shoulders back. But I think for years,

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I didn't walk with my shoulders back and my chest out because I have

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so much chest. But, hey, it is what it

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is. So practice in front of the mirror. It

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might feel goofy at first, but that

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power pose, it translates into confidence.

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Step 4 is your sexy soundtrack.

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Music has the power to transform our mood.

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Make a playlist of songs that make you feel invincible and

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unstoppable. Blast it while you're getting ready. Strutting your stuff

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around the house. That energy is contagious.

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One of my power songs is I'm Every Woman by Whitney

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Houston. I blast that song around the house, and you can't

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tell me nothing. Feeling

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sexy inside is the first step.

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Now how do we let that shine out?

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Expressing your sexy isn't about dressing a certain way or

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or acting out of character. It's about those subtle

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personal touches that make you feel alive. For example,

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find your signature. A bold lip color, a

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favorite piece of jewelry, or that perfume that

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feels uniquely you, or even a pair of snick

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sneakers. Horse sneakers. I mean sneakers.

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Today at church, I was commenting about a

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young lady who always has on a different

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pair of low top Jordans.

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They're fun and they're colorful. Well, that's her signature.

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Next would be the power of a smile or even the way you laugh.

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A genuine smile lights you up from within, so

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don't be afraid to flash those pearly whites.

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And then own your style. It's about wearing what

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makes you feel fabulous. Embrace clothes that

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flatter your body. Comfort and confidence

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are the ultimate ultimate sexy combo.

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So here are 5 ways to

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redefine sexy on your terms. One

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is to explore your sensuality.

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Sexy isn't just about how others see you, it's about

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connecting with your own desires. Connect with what

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makes you feel vibrant. Whether it's

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through touch, through taste,

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or setting a serene ambiance. Finding

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what's find what stirs your

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soul. Try a new massage oil or

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rediscover a scent that makes you feel amazing

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or set the mood with candles and music.

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Next would be invest in you.

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Feeling good in your skin is key. Treat yourself to what

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makes you feel good. Whether it's that

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skin care routine that you keep putting off, a bold new

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hairstyle, or comfy yet flattering

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loungewear, treat yourself. And

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then I'd say, play with fashion. Fashion

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is about expressing yourself. Dust off those items

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that you love, but you hesitate to wear. Wear what

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makes you feel fabulous regardless of trends.

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You got a killer pair of boots collecting dust? Wear them.

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A dress that you adore, but you think is too young?

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Don't rock them. Fashion is

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about self expression. There's no age limit on

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style. Movement is

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magic, so engage in physical

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activities that you enjoy like maybe

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dancing or yoga or walking. It's

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really about feeling strong, alive, and in tune with

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your body. Feeling that strength,

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it and vitality is pure sexiness.

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Then redefine intimacy.

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Intimacy evolves. It's about connecting on a deep

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level, expressing desires, and exploring

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pleasure. Intimacy is about joy.

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Don't be afraid to express your wants and your needs.

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So here's our listeners note. So I received a note from

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Diane in San Diego, and she shared that

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after 50, I found a new love for salsa dancing. That

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sounds fun. It's not just the movement, it's the freedom

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and the joy I feel when I dance. It

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reignited a spark in me and reminded me that sex

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is a state of mind. Diane, your story

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is a testament to finding what lights you up and

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embracing it fully. That joy, that spark

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is the essence of sexy.

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So as we wrap up today, remember, sexy is about

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embracing you at

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this amazing stage of life. You are

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fierce, you are powerful, and you're desirable.

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And don't let anyone, not even yourself, tell you

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otherwise. It's about living life on your own

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terms and finding beauty in the journey. I

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wanna thank you for tuning in. If today's conversation

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resonated with you, then spread the love, share this episode, and

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let's continue to redefine what it

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means to be sexy after 50. Until next

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time, remember you are undeniably

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sexy. Now keep shining, keep

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smiling and keep strutting your stuff with

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age, style, and a touch of sass.